I have been seeing a guy for a month and a half at the very beginning. He told me that he self harms and he had a slip up. When he showed me this slip up it did not. How do I say this it looked like a cat scratch. I showed my friend who is a registered nurse and she said that what he shared with me, was such a superficial cut. It look like a cat scratch.

Fast-forward

Last night I told him at 2:50 AM. Hey I need to get to bed. I have to be up at 7 AM.

And instead of saying, have a great night good night he said there’s something super important I need to tell you and you’re probably not gonna like me anymore afterwards

I asked him to please tell me

He told me that he had a big slip, and he cut himself way too deep, and he went way too far the other day , he asked if I wanted to see the pictures cos he took pics from when this happened the other day

I said no thank you I’m good however are you OK? Do you need anything?

He established with me that he’s in an excellent state of well-being, and he doesn’t need anything, but he felt like he should tell me that he had a major slip up where he went too far too deep

Anyways, after it was established, he’s OK. Things are good. He’s not in the state of crisis. I ended up falling asleep.

I fell asleep about 3:30 AM

I woke up this morning to messages that instantly made me feel very uncomfortable

He asked me 3:35 AM

can you stay up later??

At 3:42 he messaged me well I guess. Good night sweet dreams talk to you tomorrow.

I don’t like the fact that he told me something super heavy that occurred to him a few days ago. We obviously talked it out. We discussed it. We had that conversation but he’s still asking me to stay up.

This seems manipulative, is it??