My husband and I picked my son’s name in October (due in April). His first name will be my maiden name. His middle name is my father-in-law’s name.

My dilemma is my father. He an alcoholic. When he’s sober he’s amazing. He was always the best dad growing up. The last 15 years he’s been an on/off again alcoholic. I can’t even count the amount of times he’s been to the hospital to detox. Right now he’s on the deep end again. He’s been in a drunken binge for the few weeks.

I just don’t know about naming my son my maiden name now because of my dad’s problems. I don’t know if I want my son associated with that.

I mentioned to my husband my concerns and he said to me, “honey it’s not just your dad’s name. It’s in honor of you, your grandpa, your uncle, and your brothers.” Plus my husband’s partner at work for the last 10 years has the same name so he really likes it.

When my dad is like this it just makes me sick. I’ve looked at other names, but since we’ve had that name picked for the last 4 months nothing else feels right. I asked my husband to browse other names, but he has his heart set on what we picked. I just don’t know what to do. Do I keep the name? Or will it associate my son with a dark cloud