I dated this guy that I'll call T a couple years ago. We had a bad break up. I had suspicions he was gay but still tried to stick through the relationship. It was mainly because he wasn't really into things that most straight men were into and his best friend was bisexual. I just don't know many straight guys who are okay with being friends with a guy who isn't straight. He was super close with his friend too. He also went through CSA as a child which I heard can make some guys gay. I think I shouldn't have stayed because I caught myself fantasizing about being with someone else so I just started treating him badly to get him to break up with me.

When we broke up I was honest and told people I was sure he was gay. Apparently the rumor got back to his family and he almost got disowned by his whole family and kicked out of his home. We stopped talking clearly. My sister isn't friends with T but friends with his bisexual friend and told me about his bisexual friend being streaming while playing video games and T was in the background eating. Some has asked in the comments if they were dating and he said no and T said he was straight and told a story about having a girlfriend who thought he was gay and it not being true and how when we broke up I spread that rumor like a middle school girl and almost got him disowned and that i treated him like shit in the relationship and claimed weaponised his trauma his bisexual friend called me a bitch in the stream. I didn't care until my sister told me that T said it's so dumb to treat someone badly yet let them know all your dirty laundry. His bisexual friend asked what he meant and he said he could drop so much tea and actually probably get me ostracized from my family and friends but the only difference is it's stuff I actually did and he has the screenshots to back it up. My sister said he said "I could COMPLETELY shit all over her life. But I'll save that for another time. Kidding! Maybe..." I didn't think about how much he does know about me and how many things I did tell him and some over texts and my own sister would hate me if she knew some stuff. I had asked her what else was said and she said he just started talking about the only thing that makes a man gay is liking other men and if you think otherwise you're a dumbass and they laughed and moved on. He could have been joking about shitting on my life but it's true he knows a lot. I admit I made mistakes and treated him in a way that wasn't great but I've never known him to be vindictive and now I'm having anxiety and I'm terrified