Allowed my daughters father to see her after 6 years, I had her at 19 he refused to help with her had to put him on child support, he was 22 at the moment, the whole pregnancy I was by myself my parents came to my appointments. He would curse me out for no reason, then I would get fed up and break up with him then he would get his mom involved to try and talk to me. I was so stressed out that I almost went into labor early at 5 months, he wasn’t present during the birth. When our daughter was 4 months a woman inboxed me telling me that he had another daughter which means he was cheating. His family tried to attack me and my mother at the court house with my child present. I pressed charges. Fast forward to now they build a father daughter bond, she is happy me and him end up getting back together, we argued but it was minor. His mother was harassing me about us going back to court for joint custody and child support which was none of her business. I accepted the other daughter as well until she started disrespecting me and my daughter. She would hit my daughter when my ex bf wasn’t looking, I also caught her trying to push my daughter down the steps, I told my bf that until she learns how to respect me and my daughter she is not allowed over after all it is my house. Of course he had an issue and so did his mother/father. I told him that when he sees his other daughter that I don’t want to be around, it was only an issue because he doesn’t have a car and he doesn’t always have the funds as well. I started working extra hours and picked up another work from home job to save up for a new car. I was able to drive of with a 2024 in 2023. Once I got it, I was happy and proud it was a big accomplishment for me. My ex bf was mad and jealous because I brought a new car. I realized that within the year that we were together I was neglecting me and my needs I didn’t get my hair done a lot, no nails or pedicures no new clothes which it not like me. So brought my kids stuff and I started shopping for me again, once again he gets mad and jealous. He tells me I think I am better than him, keep in mind I’m helping him level up, I’m giving him a roof over his head, I’m doing everything I can to help him. I over hear him asking my daughter do I have an another boyfriend, he is asking her is anyone else in my car. He also tells my daughter that if I leave him he will kill Me. He also threatened my daughter not to tell me. I didn’t want him to know I heard him, so I acted like everything was normal. I told him I had a family emergency and that I had to drop him off to his mom’s house. I packed his clothes and changed my locks. I dropped everything off to him and told him I was done with him, we got into a fight, I had a bruise on my mouth, my jaw was swollen , my hand was bleeding because he bit my finger. He told me he would have my kids taken away from me. Come to find out he called Dyfus and told them I beat on my oldest. Caseworker came to the school did a full body inspection on my daughter with out my permission, traumatized her. Case was close had to get a restraining order, he filed for custody judge dismissed it and made him take battery classes the judge said that maybe that maybe that would make me feel better, the courts in Mercer don’t take anything serious unless your dead. I’m pressing charges, my daughter also told me that he choked her, she says she was scared to tell me. She told me that her grandpa on her dad side smokes weed in front of her, she told me that her father has favoritism between the kids. My daughter also told me that he has another newborn, which means he probably cheated again which I don’t care about I just want my peace and my child to heal from this. Also I did not know it at the time the 2nd bm was 16 when she had the baby which means that was rape because he was grown. I also did relay the message to the cops as well.

Sidenote I did not have my daughter freely my daughter was forced upon me but I still love her. Never pressed charges because I don’t like to think about it/deal with it. I do take accountability for my involvement because I should allowed him back in my daughter’s life or my life. We are currently in counseling trying get through this. I’m licensed to carry but I don’t want that on my heart. What else could I do