While I was pregnant I got diagnosed with preeclampsia, I was pregnant with my rainbow baby. I had always gotten along with my MIL, I saw her as a mother, I trusted in her more than my own mother because I’ve never been very close with my mom. She would take me to my OB appointments and “take care” of me in her home while my husband was away. Towards the end of my pregnancy my MIL changed her demeanor and made up lies about my family and I to my husband while he was working out of town. This hurt me terribly, I was in and out of the hospital with my high blood pressure due to the stress it was causing me. I confronted her about the lies she told my husband and simply denied everything my husband said. I had to be induced because my blood pressure was at 198/60, my husband drove back to town in time for our baby’s birth. Before being discharged I broke down and had an anxiety attack because I didn’t want to return to my MIL house but I had to because my husband and I had nowhere else to go. A couple weeks after I gave birth me, my husband, and my mom had a talk with MIL about what was going on and she simply made up more lies on the spot and wouldn’t listen to a word we said. I would keep calling her out on her lies but she’d insist on them being true. She also said she didn’t take care of me out of the kindness of her heart, that she simply did it because she was once a nurse and that she saw it as just a job; this was like a knife to my chest, she ended up kicking my husband and I with our newborn out of her home after the discussion, It’s her home, I get it. The next day she tried to kill herself to paint herself as the victim. All this made me start going into postpartum depression. 3 months later, I can’t bare to see or hear my MIL, I can’t stand her presence out of disappointment and disbelief of all the chaos she caused. So I’m deciding to cut her out of my life. I told my husband I no longer want her coming to our home to visit our baby because it just brings me down. Instead he wants to take our baby to her house, he says I need to compromise because his mom deserves to be around our baby but I think otherwise after everything she did. I have zero trust in that lady now, and my gut just tells me not to trust my baby around her but my husband insists. I don’t know how to tell him that I don’t want to compromise and that I want his mom nowhere near my baby girl. Am I wrong for feeling this way? I feel like my husband doesn’t understand where I’m coming from.