I got into a fight with my boyfriend last night. He is in the music industry and had a show to go to after he did a studio session. We made plans after the show. We made these plans earlier in the day- he said he really a wants to see me and they were plans that he came up. I want to be as neutral as possible when telling this story so here’s the timeline:

He called me at around 6pm and told me about the show he was invited to after his studio session. On the phone i asked if he was canceling our plans or if they were still on for after the show. He said they were still on, he’s just going to the show to meet the artist. I didn’t have a problem with this.

He went to the show at 9. Everything’s fine. He texts me at 10:30 saying the show is almost over and he’s ready to get out of there.

11:15 comes and I haven’t heard from him so I ask if he’s good.

At 11:20 he texts me and says he’s good and just made some great business connects and is just waiting for the friend he came with and then he’s leaving. I text back and say it sounds good and ask if he’s coming to me after that. He confirms and says yes.

At 12:10 I text him again because I haven’t heard from him. I see his location and he’s not at the venue- instead he’s at a random house.

He texts back and says he’s at a songwriters house bc the song writer wanted to meet him and his friend.

At this point I’m irritated because I stayed up waiting for him. I let him know that it upsets me when he makes plans and then strings them along. He’s never had an issue calling me and saying “hey babe plans changed I’m going to go here first blah blah blah”

He then turns it into me not supporting his career and the industry he’s in. He said I’m not happy for him and I’m just like his ex’s. It got very extreme and aggressive and he said I’m ruining his networking bc he’s just arguing with me over text. I turned my phone off for an hour while he was at the house party so we would stop texting and he could go make all his connections and career moves. He went home and then yelled about how I’m just like his ex’s and how he wants to just do whatever he wants to do like he always has and how he tells me who he’s with and what he’s doing. He tends to make sly back handed comments in his arguments.

Then he accuses me of being shady on Instagram and asked about a guy that’s a family friend I haven’t even talked to since 2016. Completely random. Acts as if I’m shady. He’s never accused me of anything before. It just feels weird. Then he shuts his phone off at around 3am until around 5am. I don’t think he would cheat on me but I really don’t know how to approach this. I feel like my feelings got twisted into something I wasn’t even mad about and now I’m defending myself.

What do you think?