Sigh... so I broke my own rule. Little back story firt, Ive been in two previous relationships both with partners who cheated on me. I always had anxiety and thought something was going on. My first relationship I had went through his phone on many occasions and found things and still stayed I was very young (15) we were married and we had a baby. I finally left the relationship after 11 years. Second relationship was very toxic, he treated me horribly and he wouldnt even give me his password to his phone. So once I healed from those relationships I told myself if i ever felt the need to go through my next boyfriends phone that I would just leave the relationship because it was obvious I didnt trust that person. I have been in my current relationship 4 years, we are engaged and are supposed to get married next month. He has never made me feel like he cant be trusted and I have never felt that need to go through his phone. But he forgot it at home yesterday... and I thought to myself I am about to marry this man, maybe just once to make sure I really know who I am marring... not one sign of cheating, which was a huge relief but I did find a couple things that concerned me... one being a video back 2021 of us having sex... couldnt see us tho he had the camera facing the ceiling so I think he just wanted it for the sound. You can tell it was intentional though. And the big one he had naked pictures and videos of his ex wife on his google drive. They haven't been together in over 10 years. And couple years back he was going through his google photos and went out of his way to tell me he was going through them to delete any sexual photos of her (mind you i didnt even know they existed back then, till he told me) but now i am wondering if he just moved them to his drive. I just worry he still wants her, she has a drug addiction and looks nothing like she did back then but I guess i worry if she ever sobers up that he may leave me for her.