Hi. So my fiancé/son’s father and I have been together for 6plus years. The relationship is great, he’s great. However, he’s had a beard for the entire time. This week, he cut it short and I’m distraught because now from the bottom lip down he resembles my assaulter. I can’t unsee it and it makes me feel so sick. I don’t want to tell him because it’s not his fault as he’s done nothing wrong. I do not want to be any type of intimate with him because of the fact that I can’t unsee it. I’m hoping once his beard grows in that I won’t see it anymore and we can be normal.

I’m not sleeping well because I’m having flash back nightmares, which I think is related to obviously seeing my fiancé and it triggering me.

Has anyone experienced this or similar? Did it get better? I just want to be normal with my fiancé.