Ok now that Iv ate and stopped crying I’ll post the story time. It’s going to be long and obviously names will be changed. So where I am currently if you go to the clinic for prenatal care you will only be seeing a nurse until the 3rd trimester or if complications arise. For history my first son was premature and my labor was extremely fast for a 1st time mom. So I express those concerns to a nurse at my 6 week appointment and she note that my blood pressure is high which can cause pre term labor. So I go for my viability ultrasound and then to my 8 week appointment. Ultrasound seemed fine but my blood pressure still hasn’t come down, so with that and my history she was going to mark my pregnancy as high risk and send over to the OB practice they work with to see a doctor for the remainder of my pregnancy. She also started me on some meds. That appointment was set at 11 weeks and 5 days so technically my 12 week check up. Today. My appointment was at 1:40. I typically don’t get off work until 3 so I had to leave work early for this. I get to the office at 1:20 they give me paper work to fill out and ask me to pee in a cup. I’m in the waiting room less than 10 minutes. My boyfriend shows up at this time. He has to be home by 4 to get ready for work. But he wanted to be there and I didn’t think the appointment would take any more than an hour. At 1:35 a nurse takes us back to the room and does the basic family history. Which pharmacy questions she’s out the room by 1:50. I realized at that point that my phone was going to die so I set it down and just passed the time talking to my boyfriend. He pointed out at it was almost 2:15. Annoying but sometimes there is a wait to see a doctor. Also I hadn’t been given a gown or anything to change into. And I know they were planning on doing a physical. Literally as we’re discussing the time a nurse walks in grabs equipment off the counter and walks out doesn’t say anything to us. Odd. We can hear the room next to us get changed over, as in 2 ppl get seen. And the room across the hall we heard 2 separate patients in. Also as a mom I can hear everyone surrounding us getting to listen to their baby’s heart beat and like I want it to be my turn already. I haven’t heard my babies heart beat yet. It’s now 2:40 an hour after my appointment time and a nurse pokes her head in and goes “are you so and so?” To which I said “yes” and she “said oh ok” and left. I told my boyfriend who’s annoyed at this point and has to leave soon that I was going to use the bathroom and ask the receptionist what was going on. I use the bathroom and go up the check in desk and am like “hey is there something going on today iv been in my room for over an hour.” And she said no nothing was going she’d find a medical assistant to figure out what was going on. When I got back to the room my boyfriend said a male nurse came in and asked where I was and my boyfriend explained I was in the bathroom and the man didn’t say anything just walked out. So I get back to the room my boyfriend and I stare at each other for another 5 minutes and I was like “let’s just go I’ll reschedule.” So I put my coat on and walk of the room. My room was right next to the nurses station and you had to walk through the nurses station to leave. There was a couple girls standing there and a man they were all dressed the same. The man said “are you going to the bathroom again.” And I replied with “no I’m leaving. I’m going to reschedule my appointment.” To which he replied “if you don’t like it here you can get care somewhere else.” I’m thinking this man is a male nurse and pay him no mind and keep going up the check in desk. To which this man follows me. I explain to nurse1 that I would just like to reschedule for a different day my boyfriend has to get to work and I have to pick up my son. The man goes around the counter and goes “no if she doesn’t want to wait then she doesn’t get another appointment.” Again I’m not paying him any attention and I repeat what I said to nurse1 to which she says “I’m sorry if the doctor doesn’t want to see you I can’t schedule you.”

That’s when I found out that man was my OB

Nurse2 who checked me waves me down and says “come down here let me see if I can get this sorted for you.” I go down and say the same thing that iv been over and I have places to be I just want to reschedule. To which the man comes down to this window and is like “no I already told her to get her care somewhere else.” To which I told nurse2 like “look I got transferred over here because I’m high risk for my blood pressure. This isn’t helping my blood pressure. I haven’t been seen since I started a new medication. I don’t want to have to call around and find a new OB and wait longer, I just want to reschedule.” The whole time this man OB what ever is just going “no either you get seen by me right now or you don’t get seen at this practice at all.” And at this point I say to nurse2 “can you also please reschedule me with a different OB.” I hadn’t said anything negative about the man at this point. And he just starts going off on how he’s a busy OB and that means he’s good and he was off delivering babies and I need to be understanding. At this point I’m in tears my boyfriend interjects with “that’s fine but not a single nurse in this building could have told us you were running late or even offered us to reschedule before it got to this point. Nurse1 comes back over trying to help like “what about OB Sam.” To which this OB is just “if she could just be patient she could go back in the room and this could all be over in 10 minutes.” To again which I looked at Nurse2 like “this is my first high risk pregnancy appointment. I have a ton of questions. I want to discuss my meds. I want to hear my babies heartbeat. Y’all need to do a physical. I don’t want a rushed 10 minute appointment and at this point I’m not gonna be able to calm myself down I want to go home and come back on a different day. With a different OB please just reschedule me with OB Sam when ever.” To which man OB again repeats that if I won’t be seen by him then i wont be seen there at all and walks away. Nurse2 says OB Sam is booked until the 20th so it will be my 14/15 week appointment. I said again “just please reschedule me.”

So now I have to go another what 3 if not 4 weeks till I can check if my baby is ok and discuss my meds and hear the heart beat. I left just sobbing.