So my boyfriend and I have been seeing each other about 1 1/2yrs.

Shortly after dating he hurt his back and was off work 4/2023-1/2024

During that time he rarely slept at my house due to scheduling, and recovery. So we never got into a consistent routine/schedule of him seeing the kids.

Well he just started back to work with swing shift. He said we would see him more but I was skeptical.

It has now been a month and he has only seen the kids 3-4 times. The times I have seen him he was always "drained" and trying to recover from work. The one time he did stay he left in the early morning because he was unable to sleep at our house due to the noises he wasn't used to.

This started a disagreement because I am a person of routine and we don't have one at all. I told him I wanted a more consistent schedule but no attempts yet. Like this is his week off and he was going to help me yesterday with the kids, but he slept all day and then said he was going to spend today with us but has been sleeping all day.

I keep telling myself he is just fatigued from returning to work ect and as time goes on this will get better. But then the mean voices in my head says what about me and once we live together what about the kids because there are no "sick day".

This is my first real relationship after my late husband’s and my toxic marriage. He treats me and my kids great, but I'm exhausted.