Is what I’m asking for fair?

I have been with my partner for 5 years and he has had terrible binge drinking habits in the pass. Not drinking every night but when he would go out, get to the point of not knowing who he is. He has done some terrible things in this state and made me worry so much for his safety. It’s almost made us break up. Lately, he hasn’t gotten much better with drinking and doesn’t get to this state. However, obviously I still worry and have a lot of struggles from this time in our relationship when he does decide to drink. He drunk last night and I didn’t hear anything from him after 10:30 even though he was out till 2:30. I was extremely stressed and he didn’t care. Now to this day, he doesn’t think he needs to message me at least once or let me know when he is home to keep my mind from worrying. I spend hours stressing if I don’t hear from him and think he is doing all these terrible things again and won’t be able to sleep. I just want a message every now and then to know he is okay, and when he gets home. I think it should just be an expected thing for anyone to message their partner every now and then when they are out, regardless of all the history.