Freaked because i ordered his food

Last night me and my other half went out for food.They came over to take our drink orders so he ordered our drinks "2 vodkas and coke" as thats what we were having. No issue. They then came over for food order we were both having steak so i said "2 fillet steaks can i have mine medium please" i then said to him "how do you want yours" he said "i can order my own food, im not a child"He said it really sharply and i felt quite embarrased and taken aback to be spoken to like that onfront of young waitress. Once shed gone i said what was that about, i was only being nice and he freaked out and said he doesbt want me ordering his food. I got upset at the table as was made to feel quite small. I said so you just ordered both drinks and i didbt care, whats the difference?? He just said its different with food. I just feel a bit like he feels its different as he is the man and doesnt want a woman to order for him but he can do it other way around. We are mid 30s...... x just wondered other womens thoughts on this pls. X