Is it wrong?

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I love my daughter and I'm grateful I have the chance to carry her with my body and raise her one day when she gets here. But is it wrong that sometimes I second guess motherhood?

I have moments where I hate that people know I'm pregnant and touch my stomach, or talk to her through my stomach, and it makes me think "I don't want to be that new mom everyone swarms because of the new baby" I worry I might resent her for the unwanted attention, or that I can't enjoy motherhood because everyone's baby crazy.

Sometimes I feel like "what have I gotten myself into?" I'm in the middle of my pregnancy, well, a little over that. Someone told me that sometimes you might have moments where you're wondering why in the world you'd want to do this. Have a kid, raise it, and everything along with it. She promised its normal.

But is it? I feel like a terrible mother. I love my daughter and hate the times where I feel like I regret getting pregnant, or deciding I was ready to be a mom. I don't regret her though, and have never wished my pregnancy away. I just wonder if this is what I really want... For 18 years.

Is it wrong?

*if it means anything, I also suffer anxiety and depression. Could this be adding to that feeling?

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I'm about to have my second. My anxiety is so bad I can't sleep or eat. I have 2 days left and all I can't think some days is that I just don't want to do this. I don't want another. It's totally normal though. With my first it took about 2 weeks for my anxiety to settle back to what it was before I got pregnant (its much worse this time) and I couldn't imagine life without her. As far as the attention, people do start to look at you as the baby's mom sometimes, so its important to find things for you to do for yourself.

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I think everyone has those thoughts. The anxiety and depression may make them worse. But I totally understand where your coming from.

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I'm a FTM too and I find myself thinking this way from time to time. It gets a little overwhelming when people overcrowd you with questions and advice ect. I have to take a step away and breathe. I never regret my baby but I do question myself, I think it's perfectly normal to think this way.

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Very normal. I didn't even feel like I bonded well with my daughter until about 2 months after she was born. I also suffered from PPD. If you are prone to anxiety and depression you need to go over your options of medication or hormonal therapy with your doctor. They will set up a game plan of a regimen to start once your baby is born.

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Not wrong at all. It's perfectly normal. And it's not just a first time mom thing either. I just had my third baby a month ago. I still have those little flashes of 'Wtf did I get myself into?!'

But as long as the good and the excitement is still out weighing the bad, it's all okay.

If you feel that you are more anxious/depressed than anything else, talk with your doctor. Don't worry about him/her judging you or finding your feelings odd. They have heard it all before and that's what they are there for.

But it sounds like you very much love your little bundle already despite the worry. So I think you'll be just fine. :)

Good luck and enjoy it. Every stinkin second of it. It goes by too fast.

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It sounds like your just scared , your a first time mom and you just want everything to be perfect!

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I'm a FTM too, currently 34 weeks pregnant and sometimes I feel this way. I think it's just nerves, I'm sure you'll be a great mommy 💙

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I think every mom goes through feeling this way. I have a 4 year old daughter and even tho I love her more than anything some days are just plain hard and you tend to question yourself as a mother. I am currently pregnant with our 2nd who we have tried years for and want more than anything but I do tend to ask myself what am I getting myself into, is it even possible for me to love him like I love my daughter. I also don't like the swarms of people, I do not like to share my daughter even to this day. When she was a baby I would keep her in a sling just so no one could touch her, it made a lot of people mad but I didn't really care, I've already warned family it will be just as bad if not worse with this one. I think your feelings are completely normal

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I just had my 3rd a month ago and I was so nervous the whole time. I was nervous about having a baby again and juggling my older 2. Plus they're pretty much self sufficient now so I was like "am I really doing this all over again?" Lol. I didn't regret getting pregnant but it did feel kinda like what have I gotten myself into. She's here now though and it feels like she was always meant to be here. Everything so far has worked out and due to other circumstances it has been a very stressful month so thats saying a lot haha. You'll be fine, I promise.

Is it wrong?

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