Is he the problem or am I? It’s just my love language I guess

So, I’ve been dating my man for about 3 months now and he really likes me. We’ve been having sex really early on and he really enjoys his time with me. Every time I’m with him he tells me I look like his favorite celebrity and just tells me how pretty I am. Well, the last time I was with him I found out a bunch of stuff about him and instead of just airing him out, I asked him to unlock his phone, when he didn’t I said okay I’m leaving. So he grabbed me and kept stopping me from opening the door and I said stop putting your hands on me he said I’m not and when I went to go back towards the door he grabbed my entire body again to stop me from leaving. So I ended up staying. We argued a little and he insisted I talk to him, when he got close to me I kicked him because I was intimidated. He threatened to break my phone. And then we had sex later that night.

We have really good sex. But I have the urge to hit him, like punch him because I want a reaction, I want him to hit me. To me, that’s like my love language. He told me he had choked his ex in his previous relationship but only when he provoked her. He is honestly a sweet guy.

He told me I’m crazy but that he just lets me get away with it because I’m really pretty. Is he the problem or am I? Does this sound like something we can work through?