Toddler questions

Hi

My now 3 year old toddler was potty trained when they were 2 and a half, but we still have lots of accidents, i would be telling her do you need to pee? Do you wanna go together? Just so that we can prevent these accidents but she still pees herself and refuses to go to the bathroom, she just wants to play all the time.

Rarely but it happens, she does it when she’s asleep.

Sometimes she holds herself last minute and pees a little into her underwear and continues in the bathroom.

Every morning it’s a chaos trying to let her go to the bathroom to pee and wash her face, brush her teeth.

She used to love brushing her teeth in dont know what happened, she isn’t excited about it anymore.

I have a newborn now, is there a chance that she’s stressed? She is somehow jealous of her sibling.

She’s really spoiled anything she asks for she gets it, if i try and hide the candy and tell her no to watching the stupid things on YouTube then her dad will let her.

i want to know how can i be a good parent? I tried for sometimes to just ditch the rules around the house, maybe she’s stressed because of me, but she’s still the same and we’re facing the same problems.

How do you parent your kids? Especially when they cry about everything.

When do you say no.