We have a 2 bed 1 bath house and 4 kids. In one room there is a queen and in the other there is a king.

My husband sleeps with 1 kid in the queen and I sleep with all three in the king.

This is all my husband’s idea. He cannot stand the thought of sleeping without them? I guess it gives him anxiety?

I haven’t slept with him for going on four years and I told him I about had it. I’ve been telling him.

I feel robbed that I don’t get to kiss my kids goodnight, tuck them in and read them a story.

My husband always asks me to put them to bed which means I have to lay in bed with them until they fall asleep. I can’t anymore.

I keep having panic attacks. I feel all touched out and burnt out. I feel like I’m deserving of a break. I don’t sleep good with them in my bed. I toss and turn all night long and wake up to them crying all night because they can’t feel me.

My husband keeps saying they are only young once but I’m thinking I am too? This is my marriage and I’m still young… it’s not like it’s an opportunity I get more than once. but have to sneak around just to have sex? I can’t even have a room with my husband because I have to share it with my kids. Anyways, it’s also ruining my sex life.. not to mention my relationship with the kids. I’m not bonding with them..

To me it’s beyond ridiculous but he doesn’t see it.

I told him we can put a bunk bed or two twins in the other room and we can have our room and he said only way we’ll sleep together is if we add that queen to my room. What the actual heck?

Not to mention the kids are getting separation anxiety any time they go to my mom’s… they don’t want to have to sleep by their self.

What would y’all do in this situation because I can’t anymore.

I don’t have time for me and my house also needs a good TLC. If they had their own beds and I put them in beds I’ll have time for myself and cleaning more…



 Sincerely, a Mama who needs a break 😭😭