Maybe I’m the one delulu?

We were talking about finances the other day.. and how my husband wants all these fancy toys and this that or the other. Starts telling me how he wants me to have a job right after baby is born.

Let me preface this with a few things… my husband makes good money, he’s already made $17k this year, or he brings around $4100 a month not including his bonuses. I’m a sahm, I take care of everything that does not involve me working his job. He gets off work and all he has to do is eat, drink alcohol and play his video games until bed. Everything has to be done or he gets pissed at me and won’t talk to me if it’s not.

I worked full time, took care of our toddler plus did all housework etc last year up until June when I got laid off. So I’ve done it all and brought in a good income.

I do not get my hair done- even cut it myself, no nails, no Starbucks, no target runs unless it’s milk for our toddler.. nothing extra. We also have around $1,000 extra for play money, that he uses as he sees fit.

Our second baby is due in a few weeks and he told me the other day that he wants me to go to work immediately after baby is born. (Same man who shoved indeed jobs on his phone in my face seconds after I told him we were pregnant with our second).

Daycare in our area for 1 child that we paid for was around $1,000 a month. Even for in home. Imagine for an infant on top of that. So tonight, he told me he wants me to watch both kids, take care of house & everything that includes and I do mean everything - even mowing, our animals plus work full time. He’s gone for work a ton, like he’s going out of state again this week for work and it’ll just be me alone doing everything. Typically he doesn’t help me either even if he is home because his mom did it so I should too he says. (Not do any household work nor watch the kids).

I told him that doesn’t even sound plausible for me to do or manage.. because we wouldn’t be able to afford daycare.i can assure you I’ve asked for help from him.. it does not happen. He feels it’s all my job period. He doesn’t have a set schedule, he’s out of town quite a bit, he also answers emergency calls even after he gets off work and leaves for those plus we only have 1 car and it will not fit both kids in it. Due to him demanding we get this stupid small Mercedes car. So it would have to be a wfh position. Am I delulu or is he asking/demanding way too much from me?