Not conventionally attractive

So I like to say I'm an acquired taste in beauty (im working on not saying UGLY thanks to therapy). Im definitely not conventionally attractive. I have no jawline (even when I was thin, which I am not anymore) and my mouth is just much too small. Im all ass and no tits and am rather hairy (chonky brows). This is all just to give you a general picture of me. Positives are that i like my smaller waist, green eyes, and that im tall (im 5'10" and i love heels).

Anyway, whenever im around anyone that is attractive j get so nervous and awkward. I dont know HOW I chased my ex-husband. Maybe it was being young and bold... but I have no clue how to ever date again.

For one, Im not going to catch anyone's eye immediately. I have looks that grow on you not anything that will get anyone worked up. And rwo, since I freeze my personality disappears. I don't blame the couple dates I've gone on from not going past the first date because how can they know who I am? (This was back when I was trying online dating but I dont think its for me. I want to meet someone naturally)

How do people find a partner? Like how do y'all actually open up and go through with things or be confident about things? I can't help but feel that coming onto someone is an insult because its assuming that I could be their type, if that makes sense?

Im in a moment of "if it happens it happens" qnd trying to focus on healing with all my therapy and all that, but im still curious how other "my beauty grows on you" gals got their partners?