Mother's Day: should my husband do something for me?

Question

I got a question for the mom's. Does your spouse celebrate you for mother's day?
My husband doesn't. I have three young boys and don't get time away or anything. He also doesn't plan anything. I've expressed my wishes and wants but it's not a day he thinks he should have to do something. Our kids are 4, 3, and 6 Months they can't do anything on their own.
He tells me he will celebrate with his Mom. Which normally means he will spend the day with his mom and maybe bring the oldest child or by himself. MIL and me don't have a great relationship she doesn't invite me and she won't make plans with me so I can't combine.
I then take the kids to my mom's my house isn't wheelchair accessible so I have to go to her. I bring her flowers a gift and have a BBQ. It just like every  day of me cooking cleaning and taking care of kids.
I'm trying not to be selfish but I am kind of burnt out and I haven't had time away from my kids in months and I don't really ever get celebrated.
Father's Day I get my husband cards gifts and he spends the day with his dad and brother. I don't have a father (he's passed on) so it really isn't the same because he gets a day and so does his dad.
I'm always being told I keep score too much or things won't be fair but I think I am doing that because the discrepancy is so off and I think I deserve a day too especially since I have three young kids. I don't blame him for wanting to spend time with his mom but I don't get a day. I don't even get a day before or after. I don't feel celebrated loved or valued. I have told my husband this for years it's a struggle in our marriage I don't feel like I'm appreciated.
Am I wrong for thinking my husband should attempt to do something for me for mother's day?

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last year my husband napped all day on mother’s day. i gave him the same energy on father’s day. his present from me was a fat nap for myself 🤗 
i’m hoping this year is better. last year sucked i cried. if he doesn’t do anything for you, do not do anything for him.

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You deserve breaks and to feel appreciated more than just Mother’s Day!!! I would not be happy in a relationship like that

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My husband celebrates me every year. Even when I was pregnant, he brought me a “pre-Mother’s Day gift,” lol. He’s the one who made me a mom, so he always makes me feel special on Mother’s Day. As for his mom, he gives her a call and/or sometimes will give her a gift. He prioritizes me. 
I’m sorry your husband doesn’t celebrate you. I would definitely have a talk with him. Maybe he could spend half the day with you, then the other half with his mom? I’m glad he has a great relationship with his mom, but I honestly feel like he should be making you a priority on Mother’s Day. Schedule something nice for yourself and tell him he needs to watch the kids since he doesn’t want to do anything for you.

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My husband always does something for me on Mother's Day. I gave him the most amazing gifts he could ask for for him it's the least he could do. My step-dad always got something for my mom, my Nanny, and his mom. Even my father, the horrible person he is, would stop by and give a gift to my mother and my Nanny.

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You are NOT wrong! You absolutely deserve to be celebrated on a day that is your day!! Especially since he gets to celebrate his day! It's extremely unfair of him not to see that and not to thank you for his 3 sons and all that you do as well as make you feel loved and cherished as he should!! He's a good son but a very sloppy husband and I find that to be unacceptable! But since you can't rely on him to make you happy, make yourself happy, celebrate yourself!!

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My husband doesnt do anything for me but does gift his mom, and it doesnt bother me, but overall I do feel appreciated in my marriage. Hes pretty good about letting me take breaks, helping out at home, running errands for me etc.. If I didnt feel that appreciation, I could see why that one day would have more weight and I would probably feel more slighted.

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That is ruff. Im sorry. If he doesnt do anything for you on mothers day, return the energy by not getting him anything on fathers day. In fact on fathers day, leave him with the kids and you get some well deserved free time. My dh celebrates mothers day with me since we had our son (5). He even got me a gift for mothers day when i was pregnant, even though i made it clear i didnt want one as our baby wasnt born yet. He also gets my grandmother, my mother and his mother as well.

Mother's Day: should my husband do something for me?

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