Fwb-never again lol *long thread*

Yall.

Okay let me say that I know what comes with a fwb thing. I know. No feelings and all that.

But my fwb did some shady to me, it was just foul to me. Then he tried to make me somehow feel it was my fault, trust me, it’s giving narcissist vibes.

I need an honest opinion if I “over reacted” because I don’t feel I did and NO we do not talk anymore after this. I cut it off last night even as my friend because friends don’t do this.

So- last night he came to my house and we talked for a while, he likes soccer and he’s very passionate for soccer. We were talking about music too etc, our jobs, like just about anything. I was telling him he should teach me soccer like how the game works because I really don’t know.

I care deeply about my very very few friends of coarse I wanna know what you like, etc. how are you are as a person. Overall I value connection. I’m very very to myself so the fact that we were that open with each other, says a lot. He also shared some personal things with me about his life and his family but wait! It gets better—

He then goes on to ask me about this girl and he asked me if I talked to her… I said no.

I knew before she was my ex friend (we weren’t super close but she is best friends w my cousin and I see this girl everywhere, at every party my family has, everywhere)

And the last time I saw her, she wouldn’t stop looking at me and laughing… 😂 hmmmm I wonder why…. This was months ago but it’s alllllll gonna make sense why she was laughing at me & staring at me the entire night.

So why did he ask this? Because he wanted to be “honest” about something… lol okay let’s be honest

WHY would he wanna be honest NOW? No idea

He tells me, well the time that we didn’t talk last year (we didn’t talk for a few months because he got mad at me for asking her a question because I saw her at my cousins grad party, and then I asked her HOW she knew him because he was my friend. But I never made it weird, I didn’t talk bad about him, it was a simple question) He got so mad at me that we didn’t talk for months! Lol

So during that time that we didn’t talk, he was talking to her. And he liked her so much, that’s his type and he says I’m not his type and I never will be. Then he said they stopped talking cus he saw she liked being out in the streets in side shows.

Then here it comes…

I asked, did you do anything with her?

He said yes.

lol yup you guessed it.

and she got a boyfriend too very shortly after they stopped talking and this girl is known to bounce around as she begged to be with my brother by the way at the party.

Lol okay so why come back to me? Go hook up with her and go ask her to help you with whatever you need. Or go with someone else that is your type.

His response was “I just liked the sex that’s it that’s why” he said I shouldn’t be hurt so much because we were never together and that it’s my ex friend.

That doesn’t matter. That is shady as fuck to me. Friends do that. He said he wouldn’t care if I did the same. Oh hell no.

He really tried to make me feel ugly cus honestly in that moment I did feel ugly and very very just not enough for him. It was hurtful.

I would never ever sleep with someone that I wasn’t attracted to. Idc idc. I said what I said.

He then said first impressions are everything and that I was drunk our first encounter, yeah I was. But I had just came from my grad party last year to his house and I was a little tipsy. But I didn’t act a fool, I wasn’t aggressive, hell, I didn’t even pass out. And my make up was done.

Meanwhile - This girl was literally not bathed, not ready, when they first met is what he was saying.

Yet that’s a good first impression?? lol that’s your type??

So I cut the friendships off it’s done. I don’t ever wanna know about this person again, ever.

I tried to be a good person, loving, kind, and yes of coarse I liked him. I thought he was different. I have no idea why he told me this. But he said he needed to get it off his chest.

I go to school full time, I work and I make decent money, I take care of myself, I have too much going for me for someone like this.

I benefit him more than he does me. I’m not the smartest person ever but my heart will never change. I will always choose love over hate so I forgive him but honestly I hope I never see him again.

I honestly find myself so depressed as it is but here we are.

thanks for listening ladies :)))