I do not know how to be supportive in this situation !

I have a close friend who just found out she’s pregnant and I don’t know how to be there for her because the situation is ridiculous.

We lost someone close to us giving birth so immediately I feel like you shouldn’t definitely just be out here having kids after you see first hand how this can ends up. She’s a single mother already. So I’m confused on why she hasn’t learned from this situation.

The guy she’s dealing with has four kids of his own he don’t take care of. He lives in a family house with his parents and one of his kids mother live there too. Yeah, exactly. He runs from that situation and comes to her so idk what she’s expecting. She tells me he’s not a good dad but now is having his baby. Also, they cheat on one another all the time. She feels he be doing stuff so she does stuff back. Childish.

She hate her job it makes her miserable. She just brought a car she can’t afford and complains about that but now says she can’t leave her job because she brought a car. She complains allll day and so negative about her life so I tried to remove myself a little because it’s absolutely draining. She add problems into her life to complain. People need to realize they’re usually the ones holding themselves back.

We know this guy isn’t sh*t. She been complaining for a few years. So, we know she’s going to be complaining even more now that she’s pregnant about a life and partner she know she doesn’t have. I don’t want to set myself up to be her backbone and emotional support because I know what comes with it . More complaining and being more negative. Nobody talks about how it drains the friend. I’ve been just trying to get my life back in order and selfishly I really want people around me that cares for their future! I’m putting in all this work to become a better person and to have people around me who doesn’t care about what tomorrow brings really grind my gears because I’m putting in the work every single damn to to become a better me.

I remember maybe a year ago she told me if she gets pregnant she knows ima be there because I’m a good person. NO! I’m tired of draining myself because I am a good person but I’m not praising you for stupidity. Yes, things happen. But, I not once heard you talk about taking any precaution. So, how can I feel for you?