Husband doesn’t clean house when I’m away

I was out of town for an important family event, and during the entire trip my husband never cleaned the house at home. It’s just him and I, so it’s not that much work. He also had time off from work. The mailbox with full from days worth of mail, so he never checked. The stove was covered in grease and the sink was full of dishes. Along with that pretty much nothing else was cleaned. I’ve told him how this makes me feel before, and I hate how resentful this makes me feel. I couldn’t even leave a sink full of dishes when my parents would come home from work growing up. I don’t understand why a grown man doesn’t feel any responsibility to his own home. Thoughts? Lol.