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He is the father so he should be there for the delivery. You will be in the hospital for 2-3 days so you can set up plans. If you really plan on leaving you should go home and wait to leave till he goes to work. That way it's less drama. At the end of the day he does have rights and he will be on the birth certificate so he can see the child. His relationship with his child has nothing to do with the relationship you two have. I know it hurts but a child needs both parents. If it was me I would wait to be leave till my body was healed some before trying to leave since you and child would be taken care of. Then, leave while he is at work. Still need to come up with schedule for him to see the child. You can't keep the father away from the child. He most likely will take you to court.
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I’m 37w. Delivering any day. I have posted before that I’m waiting to deliver then I will be leaving my husband. But I just can’t wait. I’m torn. I don’t want to leave my comfortable house. My son has everything here. But, I am pretty sure he cheated this morning.
I warned about a female at work that gave her number. One day she text “really you left without saying goodbye “. Then last week she called him after he got off work. Mind you he gets off at 430am. I think they are same schedule too. I asked him about it and for days he goes off on me, gaslighting me. Keeps pushing the issue that he shouldn’t have to share location. We’ve been sharing location for years. Only time he wants it off is for a girl. He got with another co worker years back. So he would share location up until he gets off work. It would say “location expired” one day he was late and I told him I knew he was up to something. Now he just doesn’t share it.
This morning he comes home early. He said he was tired. He is a guy who never leaves work early or misses. Sure enough phone bill shows texts between them at 350am then a phone call.
How can I stay any longer. For him to cheat days away from our son being born. But I don’t want the drama either of the birth. Like do I let him be there for delivery? What if he tries leaving with the baby? I’m so confused.
Just venting and spiraling
Update: got the proof and left the next day and not looking back! He didn’t even fight for me. He’s done as well.
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JA
Not trying to keep kids away at all. He’s a good dad. It’s just at birth he’s the type of person to try to threaten me by saying he will take the newborn if I don’t go home with him. Since I’m due any day I did decide to stay till I deliver and heal. Really come up with a plan. I just keep my mouth shut and let him do what he wants.
I’m so sorry you’re going through this 💔 however why should you be the one to leave? Make him go. He has no respect for your marriage, your children or your home. If he has a side piece (which it sounds like he does) then let her take him in. Pack his shit and change the locks and kick his ass out. I know this is way easier said than done, and again I am so sorry you’re going through this. It breaks my heart to know you’re about to give birth and this is supposed to be a happy time and it’s so bitter.
JA
Because I’m unemployed and I can not afford to stay here. He won’t pay either. Not only is he a cheater but he’s abusive. A narcissist who thinks everything is my fault.
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