Am I an asshole or does my wife not appreciate me

Me and my wife just welcomed our 4th son into the world. She him by C-section a week ago. I've been doing my part to be there for her and help her because she is my world. Our oldest son is 14. He was reading in the living room and I told him to know that I love his mom more and his mom will always come first. He said oh. I told him how it works it God first. Than his mom. Then him. He said oh. I told him it doesn't mean I don't love him. Just know his mom is always first.

My wife asked to talk to me and she asked why I told him that. I told her I was praising her and his expressing how much I love her. She told me it was weird to say that out of nowhere completely unprompted and I made our son feel like he's last in my life when he already has "depression"(he doesn't). I told her I didn't understand why she was mad that I showed my love for her and she said " I just don't understand a reason to tell him that our of nowhere besides wanting to hurt his feelings." I asked her doesn't she love me more and she told me she has a different love for me than the kids. I asked would she always put me first like I do her and she was quiet. She said if I'm asking who she would feed is we barely had any food it would be the kids and if she's asking who she would believe if any of our kids said I abused them it would be the kids. I got mad and she said she hoped I would do the same. Take care of our kids and believe them. I said if our son ever said mommy diddled me I wouldn't believe him because I know her. She told me she's done with the conversation because it's not getting anywhere. I said "I swear. Women don't actually know what they want. They want a guy who adores them and I do that and you still have a problem. She said she's not arguing with me. But she started the argument. I'm worried she's being brainwashed by the woke mob that tells her it's ok to hate men. Including her husband. I love my wife and I feel completely inappropriated now

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I understand women have a natural connection to their kids. I love all my kids. I just think you should live your spouse more. I also think it's inappropriate regardless if it's your son or not to love another man more than your husband. I would never love my mom more than my wife. My wife is the woman I love the most in my life.

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I posted on here because I figured if other women could understand my point I can show it to her.