I have a really bad history with my husband's mom. I keep civil for my husband's sake and for our children. I have forgiven a ton. What I don't do though is have any form of personal relationship with her. Occasionally I'll coordinate something with her but mostly I leave that to my husband. I'm not wanting a friendship with her either. I don't want her to be isolated from her only child and grandchildren I just am secure enough as a woman to not have to win her approval.

When I say bad history it goes back over a decade came to a head after the birth of our first child five years ago where we cut ties with her for a period of time. She tried to hold religion as a form of richness and I am not interested in that. There were issues of her challenging parenting decisions and putting my kids in situations I wasn't comfortable with like putting a baby in a car seat to sleep instead of his bassinet. She told her church she was going to raise our first child and asked for donations. She put her hands on me in anger and slammed on my legs. She wouldn't put sunscreen on my baby and he came home burnt. She is now much older and my FIL is probably going to pass soonish in the next couple years. She I know is lonely. I just really don't want to pretend to like each other. I hate constantly being insulted and judged.

This week my husband told me that she asked me to call her personally to catch up. I asked catch up about what lol? He said just to talk and she was worried about me with how I hurt my arm recently but just to say hi. My view is she has my number it hasn't stopped her before and I'm really not wanting a false relationship. My husband is very pushy about this. I don't want to call her....I don't see a point.

Would you call your MIL if being asked to do so?