For context, he has sciatic pain in his back and legs all weekend.

Saturday morning:

I went down to the car to help him bring up his stuff. He couldn’t walk and left work early. He said he was in so much pain that he wanted to cry. I looked back at him because I felt bad for him. He said “the f*ck you looking at me like that for?” I told him I just looked at him and I was just trying to help; there’s no need to be rude to me. I don’t think he heard me.

Saturday morning, later on

I helped him get to the bathroom. On the way back to the bed I was standing there waiting for him to lean on me. He got snippy, said that I was in his way; I was just standing there not helping. He said I was in the way. I told him I was trying to help and waiting for him to lean on me. I was mad but got out of the way and went in the other room. He ended up laying on the floor until he could get up and I sat next to him.

Sunday OTW to the ER:

His mom called him. He said we were heading to the ER. She asked why we didn’t just go to the urgent care again. He raised his voice and said it wouldn’t help because it didn’t help last time. He wanted to get an extra and different meds.m because the meds weren’t working. She asked him why he was raising his voice at her. He said he was in pain and wanted an X-ray because he didn’t get one at the urgent care on Friday. The conversation ended…

Sunday at the ER:

He was given some meds. He started feeling a little better. He said he was doing so well at the gym and now he will have to take a break from going. I then said that we could still take walks instead of the gym so he could get his body a break. He sat up, crossed his hands, smiled and got snarky with me. He said “how am I gonna take walks with you if I can’t even walk?” I said I was only trying to help and be positive. He said there was no need for me to say that. He also said that I don’t think, that I just speak without thinking about what I’m going to say. I said thanks (sarcastically) and looked at my phone. He touched my leg to get my attention. I didn’t look at him because I was still upset and biting my tongue. He said fine don’t pay attention to me. He texted me and said that he’s in the most pain he’s ever been in his life. He said he was gonna walk home. I said I know that you’re in pain and I can’t do much to help you. He said to just be emotional support. And we just got mad at each other. I told him he was being an a** to me all weekend when all I’ve done is try and help him. And that he was mean to his mom too. He then got defensive and said he didn’t raise his voice at his mom. I then said yes you did because she asked you why you raised your voice. He said “trust me, you’d know when I was raising my voice. That was not me yelling.” I said he was, that we have 2 different versions of yelling. He just didn’t wanna listen to me and was denying it. I dropped it.

Later on Sunday while waiting to leave:

He said he wasn’t trying to be an a**, he just in a lot of pain. I said I know you are but that doesn’t give you the right to be an ass to me. He didn’t answer back.

On the way home from the ER

He told me he wasn’t trying to be mean to me, he just gets grumpy when he’s in pain. He also told me that he didn’t want to lay in on me when I was trying to help him up because he would’ve crushed me. When we got home he said thanks for the trip. I said youre welcome. There was no apology, just an acknowledgment of him being an a**