Never had a boyfriend but I really miss this guy I was dating last year. Our connection was amazing, so much in common and it was fun and easy. I’ve never felt attraction sexually like that before whether. But I don’t know if he was avoidant or something but he ended things and said he didn’t feel romantic

He was from another country and spoke about how he’s not sure if he will stay here long term.

He came back to be friends. When he hung out with me,he really seemed genuinely so happy to see me. Like I’ve never experienced someone loom so happy to see me, hug me, tell me how much he enjoys spending time with me.

He would text me all the time and then he moved hours away for a new job and just stopped reaching out to me suddenly. I didn’t know why as he had been the one initiating all the contact and meet-ups… I never reached out first or anything.

We didn’t speak until I went on holiday last month and he texted me to ask me how my holiday was. I sent him a little paragraph telling me about my trip and asked him how he was. But he never replied.

Then last week I posted a story on Instagram and he message me ‘hope you are well. ‘ I reply ‘hey :) how’s your new job going?’

He didn’t reply but lately I’ve just noticed he’s started watching all of my instagram stories, reacting to all of them but isn’t engaging in convo.

I wish I knew what this behaviour means. I thought from his instagram, he was dating another woman. This lady has children which surprised me he would go for that seeing as he wants to go back to his home country one day. But even if he is dating her, he has started engaging with my social media a lot more often. I can sense it.

I dunno if I’m being delusional but could this mean something? If he really liked the woman he was seeing, surely he wouldn’t engage with my social media at all??

He told me that before he met me, he just did casual for a few years. Perhaps they are just casual. I always sensed that I was what he wanted for a relationship, but perhaps he wasn’t ready?

I’ve tried to date other men but genuinely haven’t found a connection that I feel is right. Me and him had a rare and special connection and even he acknowledged that. Maybe avoidant attachment?.