Disclaimer: the biggest reason this matters is because he will be moving in with her in a few weeks so their relationship is getting more serious

My sister has a boyfriend and to be honest I really don’t like him. I don’t think he’s good enough for her considering any little argument and he will completely ignore her for over 24 hours as if he’s a teenager (he’s 26)

Before he met my family, he would break up with her before big events where he’d have no choice but to be thrown in and meet my family- example: he broke up with her about 1-2 months before my wedding which he was going to be her plus one at…. Then they got back together way too close to my wedding for me to be comfortable still inviting him, so he didn’t attend….. then 6 months later broke up with her again which was 1 month before my brothers wedding, which he was also invited to attend.

My biggest pet peeve right now with him is that he’s completely incompetent!!! You don’t need to be a handy man by any means!!! I know a LOT of men are not and that’s completely okay and normal!!!…. But even with instructions, he will not help my sister with anything that requires a little bit of work and tools because he says he doesn’t know how (and very clearly doesn’t want to learn)

And because of that, my sister is constantly having to ask my husband to do things for her that she needs help with like hanging tv’s, moving big furniture, hooking up her internet/wifi, hanging up her security cameras etc.

My husband gets up at 4am for work and doesn’t come home until 5-6pm and then eats dinner and tries his hardest to stay awake past 10 so he can spend some time with me before having to do it all over again the next day. He quite literally does not have the time of energy to keep helping her with her list of shit that her boyfriend NEEDS to step up and help with. He’s going to be living with her soon and doesn’t make an effort whatsoever to learn how to fix things

On top of that- my sister isn’t the nicest to me. We don’t know if she’s bipolar or what but she will blow the fuck up at me over anything and everything. If I tell her no about something she will blow up or hang up on me or tell me I’m the worst sister ever, etc. I’ve dealt with it my whole life so for me it’s easier to brush off and forget about it, but my husband holds a grudge against her every time she does it and it makes him REALLY not want to help her.

She texted me today to ask if my husband can do another task for her and idk how to 1) tell her no for him without her blowing up and 2) kindly explaining that if her boyfriend is going to be moving in with her soon then he needs to step the fuck up and take on some of the responsibilities… she already texted me, expecting me to say something about it because she let me know he already looked at the instructions and can’t figure it out and doesn’t feel confident doing it because it includes hooking up wires.

I guarantee my husband could go over there and have the task done in less than 20 minutes which is so frustrating for both me and him because he shouldn’t have to keep helping her

I’ve nicely voiced my opinion to my sister about her boyfriend and she just doesn’t want to hear it. My husband, brother in law, brother, and sister in law all hate her boyfriend too but for some reason my sister things that it’s just me and my husband that have a problem with him and she’s completely delusional about it…. She has wasted 3 years of her life being with this guy!!! They were in just the TALKING stage for 2 years and then he ended things because he couldn’t fully commit (he was sleeping with other girls that whole 2 years) then they started dating for real a year later and then broke up twice like I mentioned before mine and then my brothers wedding

I just need advice cuz this whole thing is so annoying and I just really don’t like the guy.. I think he’s slowing her life down