I’m 25 my boyfriend is 29. It all started when we were at a restaurant a couple days ago and when we were leaving I was trying to talk to him about a skirt I was looking at in the mall and he cut me off to tell me about another woman’s body and says “that’s the weight I like” so I have something to go off of since I’m trying to gain weight. And earlier he mentioned how another woman’s clothes form fit her body really well. Since he has no one else to talk to he says he talks to me about things like this.

Later that evening I brought it up on how I didn’t appreciate it especially since I was talking to him and he cut me off to tell me about her. But we get into this huge argument and eventually he says “I LOVE woman, I think they are beautiful like how I think a mountain is beautiful. There’s tons of super attractive woman out there and you’re not the most beautiful woman in the world.” He then says “I see super attractive woman everyday but I try to keep my eyes on you, yea sometimes I let myself check them out but not very often” he later on says he has rarely been attracted to me in our 3.5 years together. He said at the time of us starting to date that he didn’t think looks mattered but that I was loyal and he could trust me and we had a good time together. He says I’m not his type either. He also says that he doesn’t find my face that attractive bc of my jaw line (that I look boyish and his biology doesn’t like that, apparently I always look like I wanna fight him (I guess I have RBF?), that I’m too muscular for his liking even tho I’m just petite with a little shoulder muscle from swim team, he says he’s not fulfilled or satisfied and that I’m not enough for him.

He says because there’s never anything exciting to do here in Illinois and we don’t get to go on dates bc we don’t have a babysitter. He says he never got to explore himself sexually before “locking himself down the rest of his life” and that since I’m bisexual he wants to have a threesome and he thinks it will bring us closer. He says he wants to experience foreign woman and the way they feel and sound and look like. But he wants to explore with me since I haven’t been with a woman before and that he will wait however long it will take for me to be comfortable with a 3some. He was a neglected child and says that neglected children are normally very sexual people per Reddit.

I love him to death but I don’t like feeling inadequate in my relationship when I’m trying to damn hard everyday. I’m tired of not being enough for him. We have 2 kids together and he doesn’t anyone else or anywhere else to go.