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I’d be shocked if the story was ‘he’s the perfect guy and she’s 100% crazy’ you’ve only been talking for a few weeks at this point, and he’s only going to show his friends one side of him, they’ve never been in a relationship with him, you can be a great friend and a terrible partner. I’d cut your losses and move on to someone who doesn’t have relationships that crashed and burned like that. Two people caused that accident.
The guy I’ve been seeing has an ex that is off the handle, should I do something about this?
*This ex had been giving him issues before we started talking*
We’ve been only talking for about 2 months and things have been amazing. He’s always followed through with his word and he’s never given me a reason to not trust him in the short time we’ve known each other (we have very close mutual friends and I trust their judgement on this situation). We mutually want to take things slow and get to know each other before we take the next step.
However.
He broke things off with her a few weeks before we started talking as friends. She went all over the place and didn’t handle it well. I’ve seen messages she’s sent him about demon pacts and everything she’s doing to get them together. My accounts are public but I have a very private way of posting. I can only assume she found me by going through his posts and likes. Her profile picture is still of them both, all of her posts these past several months have been about missing him and then turning around and posting him on the “are we dating the same guy” pages and blasting him all over the internet. But he is a well known guy in his hometown. Everyone I’ve ever asked about him has had nothing but good things to say about him.
But her latest post has been about an ectopic pregnancy with him.
We’ve been very open and honest about what we want and boundaries. I didn’t feel comfortable with him communicating with her and he respected my feelings about it. He has had her blocked since she found me on social media and that was 2 months ago. But this.. the ectopic pregnancy is much. Slamming it all over social media and only allowing certain people to see it is wild to me. I feel like it’s not my place but this is getting entirely out of hand.
I do not think he is going behind my back at all, he is an incredibly honest guy and mutual friends have witnessed all of the behavior.
Thoughts?
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It’s none of your business what she posts on her socials. Why are you looking? How do you know what she’s saying and doing and what groups she is? It sounds like you’re looking for her more than the other way around. She’s allowed to be hurt and upset over a break up and a failed pregnancy. If your accounts are public, they’re public. There is no “private way of posting”.
I would make your account private and block her on social media. It seems like unnecessary drama. Clearly, she hasn’t and won’t move on from him for quite a while. He might be a great guy with a nutty buddy ex. He might be a terrible partner. His ex does seem unhinged. It’s up to you if you want to date him. I would make sure your social media is private and she’s blocked.
Let her be a psycho, stop focusing on what her social media says, that’s child/teenage shit.. if anybody asks, simply say she lying/crazy and you’ll rather not get involved with anything that has to do w her..
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This is the most realistic take !!
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This is terrible advice. She has zero reason to believe every word he says and label her ‘crazy’ or a liar. We’ve all seen this scenario play out. For what reason do women choose to believe the ‘he’ side of a he said/she said when we know historically the truth is somewhere in the middle?
OK for now I would be cautious, if he's not giving you any red flags that's definitely a good sign but it's still really early days. I wouldn't do anything and you both should just keep her blocked, we have all had a crazy ex. I have friends who make terrible partners and I'm always honest about that, hopefully his friends are too. This sounds like a nightmare 🙈 hopefully she will move on when she realises he's not interested anymore.
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