I know I will be judge on what and why it to me so long to realize how no good this guy is. So my mother passed not long ago and it was until her passing that I starting looking at things differently. I was with my boyfriend (who I did break up with a month ago) since 2018 I saw red flags sometimes and those red flags were his attitude he has a terrible attitude sometimes and other times he is so lovable and at that time we wasn’t living together so I thought he could just be dealing with something that’s making him like that. And the other red flag is I saw somethings in his phone I didn’t like for example he still had pictures of his ex/ baby mother’s pictures also sexual pics of her playing with her vagina still in his phone and we was together for a few months when I saw that. And he told me he forgot it was in his phone or whatever the lie was. Fast forward to us moving in together and at this time I had no choice but for us to move together because of some other issues going on in my life… BAD MISTAKE he lost his job 6 months after we moved together and he hasn’t been able to keep a stable job more than a year maybe a couple months. He’s terrible with money, when he lost his jobs he was never able to pay rent by himself we always went half on bills or I had to pay everything on my own since he had no income coming in. And when he actually got a job it was always part time. He acts insecure, he doesn’t like me leaving the house looking/ smelling good without him he INSTANTLY got an attitude. He always had something to hide in his phone reason why he always had it with him. I caught him sending sending sexual pics to someone then deleted it and acted as though it was never there. He lied sooo much it was insane but in the same token he acted like he didn’t trust me. We would go out somewhere and if a guy looks my way he be ready to fight or get mad and that’s reasons why I started not wanting to go anywhere because if I leave without him to go somewhere he gets and attitude and if I invite him with me he looks frustrated and bothered and not friendly at all like he’s ready for a battle if somebody does or looks our way. Fast forward to today, he currently is without a job again and yes we’re still living together but thankfully our lease is up next month so I’m trying to hang in there until then. I been in the bedroom and he’s been sleeping on my couch I got 2 years ago and speaking of the couch so he smokes weed. When I ordered my couch I politely asked him to NOT smoke on the couch I don’t want it messed up can you sit somewhere else. So when the new couch came he invited his brothers and cousins over and I was at work The next day I was off cleaning up the living room wiping off my couch and I see a BURN HOLE in my NEW COUCH!! And he tried to cover it up with the fuzzy stuff that came out the cushions. I laid him out so bad and he says to me I will fix it like it wasn’t a big deal and I said I asked you to not smoke on the couch for that reason I paid 2,000 for that couch I calmed down and fixed it myself the best that I could. I had a 70 in flat screen tv he broke by accident and never brought me a new one. I had got us a hotel around his birthday I told him they don’t allow smoking in the room please don’t smoke or they will fine me and charge my card 500 extra dollars you know he still smoked in the bathroom. Luckily they didn’t notice and I wasn’t charged extra. And times when we have a disagreement he never wants to go to his mom house or brother house who lives right up the street to give us some space or for me to leave he says for what.Okay back to our current situation so last month I got dressed to go to a family surprise party he’s like where are you going smelling nice I been ignoring him lately because I’m over him he claimed I was going on a date and the money he said he was getting at the end of the month to help go towards bills(I don’t know where because he has no job) he then says he’s not giving me no money and to enjoy my date. He said the same thing when I was going to my uncles wedding I was dressed up leaving and he kept peeping out the door talking about I’m going on a date and getting mad at me texting me the entire time and I was ignoring him. He started snooping through my stuff when I’m at work going in my ipad trying to find stuff taking my pictures out my phone saving it to his phone. Using my stuff my body wash, facial products because he has no money to buy nothing and when he does get money he gets weed and fast food. He said I was wrong for not wanting to share my food with him and called me sneaky when I changed my password to my ipad. He had brought memory gifts for me when my mother passed and he said he’s going to take them back and break them all because he thinks I’m talking to someone new. The day I leave this apartment will be the best day of my life! I can’t wait to close this chapter and begin a peaceful,happy one.