I'm done having babies. I had a tubal removal 9 months ago. I know my husband was upset about it we talked in great detail the reason of the chapter of me having babies has ended. He sat with my doctors and listened to the advice we were given that it wasn't safe for me or another baby if I were to get pregnant. That was nine months ago and he has mentioned multiple times since how he wanted more. He says he understands why that isn't possible but still has the want.

We have our hands full with our children we have been blessed with. I'm feeling guilty because still wants more.

I see posts on here all the time of women wanting more and their partner being done. I feel like it's just rare for men to want a large family. When friends ask us if we'd have more my husband points out immediately he wishes we would. It hurts. I've had even male relatives tell me that I should have more if my husband wants more and they don't know the facts.

Another pregnancy would mean a premature baby. I'd probably have to get a pace maker. I'd be on bed rest we don't have the help with the other kids. Loads of scary issues for me. That chapter is closed.

We've talked great deal about foster care and adoption. My question is when do you know what is the right time for your family to explore that option. I feel like my hands are always full and my husband would take every child in so how do we find out balance? We are financially fine I'm a stay at home mom. We have a solid marriage. When is the right time to add to your family or welcome in our home more children? When do you know is the right time?