Am I Wrong??? (Other females depending on my man)
I want to start with I trust my boyfriend. Am I wrong to not want other females depending on my man? Like I said I trust him but I don’t trust these other women. For one I don’t know them, two why do they feel so comfortable asking him and depending on him. He’s a nice guy, he cares for others, and he’s helpful which I love about him and I don’t necessarily have a problem with. Only when he starts doing stuff for other females he works with or are friends with. Then I feel like he gets upset or annoyed when I ask questions about who these girls are. It doesn’t make me feel secure about our relationship sometimes. It doesn’t happen frequently but it happens enough for us to have had multiple conversations about it and sometimes he doesn’t tell me and I find out after the fact. For example this literally just happened, some girl calls his phone asking for a ride to a photo shoot apparently with her daughter (I didn’t get that info until the end of the conversation) he gets off the phone and tells me that he has to go take this girl to a photo shoot, I say ok but instantly a bunch of questions come into my mind, so I ask him can I ask questions without him getting upset, cause I know how he gets, he says yes, so I ask who is she and he tells me someone he works with, I asked did she not have anyone else who could take her, he said no/idk, I asked why she felt like she could ask him, he said because we work together and I’m dependable, then I ask why does she think he’s dependable, he doesn’t really answer the question and starts to get agitated and also says “you wanna ask her all these questions?” And that she’s the type of girl I don’t want to mess with like she’ll get buck with me or something, which I don’t care, I said I’m just trying to understand because I don’t know her I only know him, then he tells me she has a boyfriend and a child, and he’s not trying to talk/mess with her, I say I know that but just because she does doesn’t mean shouldn’t wouldn’t try anything in the future, I told him I’m just trying to protect our relationship and if he continues to let this girl or other women depend on him and ask him to do things for them or favors it can start turning into more, I just don’t know how to get him to understand where I’m coming from, and we’ve had conversations before about this sort of thing and how he needs to set boundaries with these female friends, So am I wrong/tripping and what should I do?
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