What’s everyone’s thoughts on spankings in public or opinions on dealing with tantrums from your kids in public ? I’m sure this is gonna ruffle some feathers but I’m just genuinely looking for opinions on this. Before I go any further yes I have done gentle patenting and no it does NOT work. I did gentle parenting for the longest time and I feel like it has resulted in my son (4 years old) having serious issues with boundaries, not respecting me, and not taking me seriously at all. His behavior is awful. I’ve tried time outs, I’ve tried ignoring, I’ve tried making time out be in his room, I’ve tried talking to him nicely, I’ve tried talking to him sternly, walking away, taking toys away, you name it but sometimes I have to spank him on his butt as a last resort after I’ve tried everything else and sometimes thats the only thing that gets him to listen to me and stop acting out. I just started doing spankings a couple months ago and it’s legit been the only thing that has gotten the point across. We are in behavioral/occupational therapy but haven’t noticed any big changes yet. He acts the worst when we go anywhere especially in public like stores, the park, etc it’s getting to a point where I avoid leaving the house at all costs because I just can’t handle the way he acts when we go places. Like I’m talking it usually always ends in leaving the bugging and everything in it then crying when I get back to the car🫠 Earlier we went shopping because his sister needed new clothes she’s outgrown all of her stuff so we were in the store about an hour before we eventually had to just leave over the way he was acting. Basically the whole time he was just throwing tantrums over not getting the toys he wanted so I let him pick one toy out, I told him he couldn’t open it until we paid for it and if he tried to open it, I would put it back. Well sure enough he starts trying to rip the toy open 5 mins later I reminded him again what I said, 5 mins later he’s doing it again so I took the toy and put it back. This resulted in an absolute meltdown he’s screaming at me trying to climb out of the buggy etc just awful everyone in the store was staring at me. When he acts that way and starts throwing a tantrum I usually just ignore him but I’m slowly leaning that doesn’t work with him and the more I ignore him the worse he acts out. I tried talking to him and he told me to shut up and threw himself on the floor, wouldn’t get back in the buggy, I was going to spank him right then and there but was already being stared at by everyone so I didnt want to embarrass him or get myself judged for spanking him and instead we just put the buggy in an aisle i said forget it and left everything. I literally was in tears by the time i got back to the car because of how humiliated I was and how stupid I felt for thinking we could actually go in a store for once. My son of course stopped acting out as soon as we left the store and was just laughing about it. Like I try to ignore his fits when we’re in the store but that gets me stared at and I can feel everyone judging me for seeming to not do anything about it or “not care” but if I were to spank him I’d still feel like I was being judged because these days everyone seems to think a pop on the butt is abuse. Idk, I’m just curious to see opinions on situations like this. He acts like this everywhereee we go every store every time. I’m just tired of it