My kids are 5 and 7 and I currently have shared custody with their father. He at first only got them every other weekend but now he gets them every other week. My kids don't like going to their fathers house. He had severe OCD even though he thinks he doesn't. When we were together nothing was ever clean enough. He ran up our water bill because for him he had to wash clothes three separate times before they were considered clean. He doesn't like my idea of clean and thinks my house it "dirty" so whenever our kids go over to his house they have to take off their shoes and go straight to the shower to bathe and change into clothes he has at his house. He puts the clothes in my house in a bag. He refuses let them bring toys from my house over unless I show proof they have been scrubbed clean and disinfected to his liking. So the kids have to shower once they get there and they can't bring any of their toys from home. I have better toys at my house so they prefer to be hear. I'm also not allowed IN his home unless I agree to wear this plastic poncho thing. His own mom doesn't come over that much because his rules to even ENTER his home are so ridiculous. So I'm not able to go in his house and have to wait out in my car. The kids don't want to go over there and we've been to court but the judge says they're too young to decide and their father being "too clean" and them not being able to bring their toys isn't a good enough reason to change custody. I hate that the court won't listen to my kid's. It already kills me to be away from them for a week but they don't even want to go and their boundaries aren't being respected. I'm not sure what to do