First, I do know how I handled this situation was wrong. Unless you've lost a child you can't understand my pain. I have 4 kids. My youngest were twins. My daughter was my only girl. My twins are boy girl twins and my little girl was good. She was sweet. She was innocent. I wanted a little girl so bad and at first thought my twins were both boys but I got my sweet girl. When she was 12 her life was taken from her by a sick person. They assaulted her and left her to die. Every year when my twins birthday comes around I make sure my sweet girl is remembered. We have a little memorial for her every year. This year she would have been 16. No mother should have to bury her daughter. I should be planning her sweet 16 with her. Buying her dress for her party. But instead I can only plan a birthday memorial. But my husband said our son wanted to talk to me. He asked if we could do the thing for my daughter the day before or day after because he wants "his" birthday to be about him and he's 16 this year and he hates that every year his birthday is made to be sad. I told them both it's not just his birthday. It's his sister's birthday but he doesn't want to share his birthday with his sister this year because it's too "sad". And he wants to be happy for his 16th. And my husband agreed! I was upset and said it's her birthday too. And she left this earth in a horrible way. My son said he will always love her but doesn't want his birthday to be depressing every year. We kept fighting because he kept not understanding my point. We argued for an hour and we were both raising our voices wnd my husband kept taking his side. Then I said what I regret and it's that I wish he died instead of my only daughter. I shouldn't have said that. It was wrong. Emotions were high. It was a mistake. I just felt like my feelings weren't taken into consideration. He is spending the night with his friend bc of it and my husband is angry at me. I was wrong. But it feels like nobody cares about my feelings. I feel my husband can't understand neither can my son. I lost my only baby girl who I carried and grew and want to honor her forever. Am I wrong for that?