Background I’m the youngest of 4 girls. I have 4 children myself and have been married for 10 years. I’m the only one of my siblings that’s married with children. My other two sisters are both in very serious relationships but my issue is with my oldest sister.

She’s almost 40 and has always played an in and out role in my kids lives. Never consistent so my kids don’t really know her as well as they know my other two sisters.

She has recently been trying to be more involved with my kids and this past weekend we all hung out in a sibling group for my mom’s birthday. While we were there my parents and sisters were all fawning over my kids because they’re the only grandchildren. Ever since the get together my sister has been really mean towards me. She called me tonight and things started out great but it’s like as soon as we start talking about kids or parenting she’s act like she’s an expert. One of our mutual friends recently had a baby and named him the same name as my oldest son. I brought up how funny it was that we now have two “Michael’s” in the friends group. She then was like I hate that name, it’s never a name I would pick for a child, it’s actually kind of ugly, my future child is going to have a way nicer name than that. I told her I thought that was rude and she maintained that she wasn’t trying to be rude she just has a different taste in names but she really dislikes my son’s name and can’t help that? My sons name is a very normal name that’s on the top 100. I then moved pst that comment and told her that our sister was going to be watching my babies for a few hours this weekend while my husband and I go out for our wedding anniversary. She then said when she has her kids she is only going to have a very small circle of people who are allowed to watch them and she didn’t think I make the cut?! She told me she doesn’t know my husband well enough (who she’s literally known for 13 years) and that she wouldn’t feel comfortable leaving her child in my care. My husband has always been incredible to me and my entire family loves him so this took me by complete surprise. He’s an incredible husband and father. She THEN asked me if she could bring my youngest two kids with her to her coworkers daughters third birthday next weekend?! After she just told me she wouldn’t trust me to watch her hypothetical children? I told her no and she hung up on me. She constantly seems to have parenting opinions that differ from mine and acts like a know it all when it comes to parenting. She has strong opinions about the silliest things too. Like her kids would never wear clothes from Zara (my kids wear Zara a lot) because it looks cheap. She also told me she thinks it so embarrassing that I shop at Burlington and Ross and she will never shop there for her kids. Her work colleagues and friends from high school all have kids and she uses their experiences to act like she’s a trove of knowledge about every parenting topic. She even critiques the toys my kids play with, if every single one is not Montessori she makes a comment because her best friends daughter only has Montessori toys?! It’s exhausting because my other sisters are so supportive and encouraging and she’s just the opposite. I don’t know how to handle this. I mean I don’t went to fight with her over an issue that’s non existent right now since she isn’t even in a relationship and has no children but I’m really hurt that she seems to think she would be a far superior parent to me and that I’m not even on her list of people to watch her hypothetical future children. Is it weird I’m kind of upset about it? How do I handle this going forward? Opinions much appreciated.