My husband (21) and I (21) have obviously had sex. Sex is great! I love sex! He loves sex! But what I don’t love is when he finished and I don’t… does that make me selfish? It drives me crazy.

It’s hard for me to finish with penetration sex so I either need oral or some other form of something to stimulate my clitoris thus ending in an orgasm. But, after my husband finishes, he’s too tired to do anything to make me finish. He’ll usually shower and then relax on our bed or couch.

I’ve expressed myself asking if he’d please help me finish? If he could do oral, or if he’s too tired, if he could use his hand or if we could buy toys. He said he doesn’t want to have to use toys unless absolutely necessary (which he’s avoiding). And he’s “too tired” to do anything else. What do I do? I desperately need advice.

I’m getting so frustrated not getting to fully enjoy it on my end. I don’t want there to be any feelings of resentment. How should I approach this conversation and what can I say to help him see my side of things? I NEED to finish too! Help???