I’m moving in with my fiancé. This is a big deal for me.

His parents live very close. I am very respectful and laugh at the Dads poor taste in jokes etc and keep the conversations on track for their age group and they seem to enjoy my company.

I however work from home. It can be hard the little visits when I’m busy. Especially from the Mom. My guy works an open door policy.. doesn’t lock the doors. 😭

The Mom also has a tendency to tell me all about what the family are doing during these visits and I’m starting to see now it’s like she’s taking pleasure in showing off their lives to me.

There is being proud about their live-styles of high end purchases and expensive holidays and there is gloating. Knowing myself and my guy don’t do much sadly.

I first thought she was a harmless MIL to be. But she’s not. I can’t confide in my guy as his ex did this and it backfired ! The ex said it’s me or your Mom.

Yeah, he chose the Mom ???

She expects her son to get her things she wants. Wants, NOT needs. I’ve even started to see the Dad like this lately.

She’s been making little remarks to me over the years.. but now I’ve heard too many and need advice !!!

It started out that my flowers were so much bigger than hers. (It’s was my first bouquet from my guy for our first valentines). 😞

She didn’t a knowledge our engagement, but has acknowledged many other family members ones.

She told me last week she’d have bought me something for the house, ‘but it wasn’t my house’ ??? She doesn’t know yet I’m fully moving in soon.

I said I was needing to get a new vacuum cleaner as my guys one was broken. She went and told my guy hers was broken to get a new one. I did without as know my guy is under financial pressure and have it taped up and took parts of an old one I had..

The examples are endless ! She’s seeing every ex as a threat. I used to take her out day trips and was very kind. However after being stood up and also cancelled for a better offer and inviting many people along to our day on one occasion I bailed.

I now have more time to myself and I ignore the hints. I have ‘private errands ’ to run and don’t want her telling everyone my business.

She’s definitely not lonely. She has a large family who are mainly stay at home mothers and have a lot of time to accommodate her.

I think she was nice to me UNTIL we got engaged.

This did not seem to please her. It’s like she begrudged me a ring and future.

I work very hard and I have had a lot of set backs in life. I work hard like my guy does also.

We are not young !!!! I’m 46 and my guy is 50!!!! She needs to get over herself. !!

BUT I need advice to beat her at her own game.

She’s manipulative to what I’ve saw and I don’t know how to address this. I am moving in with my finance and I want to have clear boundaries. I’m starting this by locking the doors for privacy!