This is bothering me and I feel absolutely horrible about this as I put my friend in a horrible position. My friend doesn’t blame me, and says that her mother does this to all of her friends if her mother isn’t already friends with said person. She has also been this way her entire life. I have also known my friend and her family for 2 and a half years. However, it doesn’t make me feel any better about the situation. The situation happened over a month ago, I guess. However, I just found out about it last night. I don’t even remember what I said that could have hurt or offended my friend’s mother. My friend doesn’t remember what I said either. Anyways my friend told me that I said something while I was over at her house and her family was over one day while her family was cooking. Whatever it was it shocked both of her parents and they spoke to each other in their native language to one another asking if I really said that. Her dad was never mad at me and basically rolled it off his back. Her mother on the other is a whole different story. Like I said I had no idea about any of this until yesterday. Her mother never said anything to me about what I had said. She did talk to her daughter about it and my friend did defend me and told her just to talk to me because whatever I had said i didn’t mean it to be mean. Her mother basically told her no that she wouldn’t do that. Now anytime I come over to my friend’s house her mother will not come over. One of my friend’s sister is pregnant and she is having her gender reveal next month at my friend’s house. Out of respect for my friend and the sister I told her that I will not be over at her house for it that way her mother can go. I can just watch the reveal from my yard since we live next to one another. I also told her that anytime that her mother is over I won’t go over to her house even if we see them outside out of respect for her. It does suck as my kids absolutely loves my friends son and all of their family. I don’t know how to make it right with my friend’s mother or if it is even possible since she has been known to hold grudges and wouldn’t even talk to me about what I had said when it happened or after it had happened. What should I do as I will never make my friend pick me over her mother?

Edit: no one told me what I apparently had said that could have offended her. I didn’t know even know it was an issue until last night. I have been over to their house since this event happened. Her dad was cool with me. Her mom is known to always be in a mood so when I would see her I just thought she was in a mood like usual and leave like normal. I never knew it was because of me.