He says he was listening to some sport thing he wanted to hear and was not present with them. Meanwhile he did get off work an hour and a half early without telling me but I went upstairs and saw him playing video games. I let him be. He came down at normal time and didn’t take them out when I said to please be present with them.

I was making food for my son’s bday party tomorrow and told me I wasn’t being present either cause I was cooking. Meanwhile I was more present than him as my two year old kept running to kitchen since his father wasn’t playing with him or his brother.

They go to sleep at 7. My husband played video games until about 8:15 as I was downstairs doing stuff for party tomorrow. I nicely said to him again that I don’t really like the AirPod thing when with the kids and would prefer if he would do that when they sleep. I said they deserve to have him present and I gently told him he has been doing it quite often lately. He jumped at me started cursing at me. Telling me I am calling him a bad dad. He said he just wanted wind down time and I told him he played video games for an hour and a half before he came down and I let him. He started mimicking my shocked facial expressions because I was taken back how he was acting. He said he can do whatever he wants and he can’t stand me. He said blamed me for ruining the evening and that “he can never do anything right” which I feel I can’t for him as he always criticizes everything I do. Meanwhile I do all his requests and it still isn’t enough. He said “you stay home with them and can be on your phone all day if you want” I says but you know I’m not! He says and that’s your choice. Your job is to be home with them whoopdee do!!

He said other hurtful things. I feel so sad and numb. He is not how he used to be before babies and idk if he will ever change back. Tonight was like a flashback of Last year my older son first bday because the two weeks prior I found out he continued an emotional affair. And I was crying on floor night before his bday party and now tonight I had a tear or two but feel numb.

I don’t feel like I overreacted or was out of line. He already had wind down him time playing video games before coming down and I didn’t say a word. He gets more him time than me. I never do. Am I crazy?