How do I deal with an over worrying mother in law? She may have some undiagnosed anxiety and other mental health issues. But I can’t help but get annoyed by her excessive worry. I feel like we can’t tell her anything that is in the slightest not positive because she will in turn start to spiral.

One recent example, we had a little bug infestation at our house. My husband had her come over to help disinfect the house since I am pregnant and we learned that these insects do not like bleach. In the days following, we were getting very frequent texts from her about all sorts of other insects. And once she even insinuated that our neighbors must have spread flour around the parameter of our house and that is why we had the bug infestation.

Most recently, we took our daughter to the ER for an elevated temperature. She has called and texted super frequently. She will text my husband more (because I try not to engage via text with her—she takes things out of context frequently and I prefer just to communicate in person) and it’s almost like she doesn’t trust us to make decisions as parents to our daughter. And she wants to know every little change that is happening with our daughter, and then she’ll get hyper focused on whatever change and send more messages and what we *have* to do.

I’m just so tired of it.