So I know I'm going to get a lot of hate for this but I just need to get it off my chest. Sorry long post.

Me and my fiancé both have children from past relationships and we have 2 together. We want to get married and have discussed dates however there's something that's putting me off .

His child is 19 and I have zero contact with him he stole from me he told lies to me and his dad trying to get us to fight whilst living with us all whilst I treated him equally to my kids would always buy him when I brought them even brought him some extras sometimes because his mum hadn't been around for years. I took him on days out and took care of him whilst his dad worked. He was punished for the things he did (electronics removed , grounded etc) and all was forgotten so to speak. Then one day he moved in with his mum after no contact for 7 years we found out by her texting me to say he'd moved in. We've found out it was because his girlfriend lived right by his mum's (he was 17 at the time)

Since living there it's been even worse from him more stealing more lies him telling his sisters mum all the info about me mine and his dad's relationship our children ( fiancé has no contact with daughter as baby mum banned him because we moved town 🙄) he's been forwarding images, info and everything saying mean things about my children to his mum and sisters mum etc so I decided to stop all contact between me and him and no longer allow him in my children's lives he's only seen my youngest on video call after her birth. He still obviously has contact with his dad.

You can now probably assume my issue with a wedding, obviously my fiance will want his son there as will I to keep my fiancé happy it's his day too however I do not want him near my children, seeing them or potentially getting recent images of them to be nasty about and send around

*Edit*

Gigi there is more than one group on this app so I can write it in whichever one I feel it belongs to . I responded to your comments on my 1 other post in reply because you made assumptions without knowing facts and the point of a forum post is to respond to the comments not just ignore them right?

Kim where we live it is not easy just to take somebody to court . It costs thousands and thousands which we do not just have at will. We are saving to try and pay the costs but it is not an over night thing and as the situation is complicated due to her physically harming my child and threatening myself and my children it will be a long and expensive thing in the courts.

We did have contact until 2 years ago when we moved and everything suddenly changed