I’m essentially just starting to get back on my feet after trying to take my own life in April. I’m currently trying to get a job, I’m also getting my drivers license in a few months, and I just moved into my own apartment (I’m renting) with my cats.

Why I’m posting this is because I need someone else’s perspective on my current situation and want to know what people think I should do. I would appreciate if nobody judges me or gives me any mean comments.

So I’m pregnant and can’t get an abortion. The father doesn’t want this baby so he said he would give away his rights if I keep it. I’m now weighing my options: Do I keep the child even though I’m just now starting to get better after a really serious mental health crisis? Or do I give the baby up for adoption even though it might lead to a new decline of my mental health and the baby might be put in a bad home situation (I’ve heard way too many stories about foster and adopted children being abused).

My family wants me to give the child up for adoption because they don’t think I can do this and they have so many valid arguments: you’re too young (I’m 21), your mental health is bad, you don’t have a job, you don’t know how to take care of a child, you’re too lazy and incompetent to take care of another human being, you can barely take care of yourself.

Only reasons for me to keep it is that I want to keep it and I don’t think I could live with myself if I gave it away. This is a huge responsibility and even though I want to keep it, I’m afraid I might not be a capable enough person to become a good mother, I don’t want my baby to have a horrible life just because I was too selfish to do the right thing and give them the opportunity to have a better life with another family.