*TW - miscarriage (not mine).

I’m currently 12 weeks 🥳 but am honestly really anxious about announcing our baby. It’s both mine and my partners first child and we are very excited to meet him/her when the time comes. I’m not finding out the sex.

That all sounds really great!

The only people who know are both our immediate families and my medical team.

My mom keeps trying to talk me out of telling anyone because she “told everyone at 11 weeks and then had a miscarriage”. She seems to have convinced herself that I’ll lose this baby if I tell anyone.

She also doesn’t want us to buy anything for the baby until I’m like 8-9 months pregnant in case I lose it and then have all this “stuff”.

On the other hand, my BFF has been TTC for about 3-4 years, unsuccessfully.

In the past, she’s made comments about others falling pregnant who “make it seem easy”. Trying to be helpful and supportive, they see a doctor because of her struggle, but am always met with the same “we’ll just try again next month”.

Not that it’s my business but I think with the amount of take out food and red bull they both consume, isn’t helping. But that’s my opinion and I’m not a doctor or anything.

But I am worried about her reaction because my Mirena had only been out 8 weeks when I conceived and due to my age, they were talking about putting me on <a href="https://glowing.com/glow-fertility-program">IVF</a> drugs, when I miraculously fell pregnant. And I am scared of her reaction. Previously she’s been nothing but supportive and I don’t want to lose her friendship that i do treasure.

How do i announce my pregnancy without upsetting everyone?