I really need help calming down! I let a friend drive my car today and my friend got into an accident stating that the semi truck did an illegal Uturn in the intersection and hit my car. I’m so upset! I bought my car last year on Christmas as a gift to myself. I have no support system. I am my only support and I support others. But I see that cost me. My poor car had to be impounded. I have insurance, but it’s basic. I know nothing about legalities as far as suing since it was a city semi truck for a water company. The man that hit my car apologized for being at fault but it doesn’t change the fact that I lost something I worked hard for, in the hands of someone else and it’ll cost me my job. I literally can’t breathe and feel my life is over. Call me dramatic. I don’t really care, that car was the only thing left to me that I could truly rely on. Now, I’m stuck in complete shock knowing it’ll never return home to me. I don’t know what to do. It literally hurts my entire core.

Update: my friend had to go to the hospital and get a neck brace and X-rays. My friend told me that the police came up there and said that since the city truck was at fault, I can let my insurance company know that and they’ll pay for the car and I’d just have to pay a deductible. They also mentioned the driver of that truck will be suspended from his job for this collision he caused. I’m glad my friend is ok, I’m just in shock I lost my car. I have to move accordingly now with using public transportation.

Update: I didn’t know about not filing through my insurance first. I did that after I got the police report. They said the companies insurance is in the police report. My insurance called me and denied my claim. This is all so new to me.

Update: I understand that some people think I’m not showing enough concern for my friend after the accident, but it’s not that I don’t care. My friend is fine—no serious injuries, just a bit of shock, which is a huge relief. What I’m focused on right now is the fact that I lost my car, something I worked incredibly hard for. That car wasn’t just a possession; it was my means to get to work and support myself. Losing it is a big deal for me because I don’t have anyone else to rely on.

Yes, it’s true that cars can be replaced, but I’m facing the reality of needing to find a new way to keep my life moving forward. I’m not going to dwell on what could have happened; I’m dealing with what did happen. I care deeply about my friend, but my priority now has to be finding a way to support myself and replace my car. I’m doing the best that I can to manage everything.

Update: Missy, I was NOT the driver. My friend was. You’re worried on the “what ifs” and “what could’ve” instead of “what happened“ my friend is obviously still alive and well. My text was to prove to YOU since you’re so concerned. My friend didn’t reach out or say anything. I did because if my friend felt any type of way, I wanted to make it clear that that was not the case, thus, why I said what I said. The car is a goner. The claim was denied which I’ve stated. My friend is OK, which I’ve stated. I’m not sure what is so hard to comprehend. You’re making it so personal when of course I was worried about my friend first. When all was well with my friends’ condition, I THEN, mourned my car and all the mixed emotions ensued.

Update: Missy, you’re still NOT comprehending and I’m tired of repeating myself. THE. CLAIM. WAS. DENIED. I have to figure all this out, which I have been doing. In your previous comment, it stated “YOU were the driver” which I did not know was not directed towards me, thus, why I felt the need to say that I was NOT the driver. My friend is OK — was released the same day out the hospital with no injuries. My car is gone. A material possession which helps me for MY future which is the bigger picture. I have every right to feel how I feel. The text, ONCE AGAIN was to prove to YOU just in case my friend did feel like I did not care since YOU said I did not. You’re making it too personal. And the reason you don’t find it a big deal, either is because you cannot relate or you were able to get help immediately with no issues and/ or you have support on your side. But exactly, I didn’t lose anyone which is a relief, but that’s what you’re making it about. We’re not dwelling on what could’ve happened when it did not happen. This is about the car and how to move forward and calm down since other options did not work. But I get it, you wanted us to sit around and dwell over a hypothetical while life goes on and we’re without a car and money for the future. No, we gonna get up and figure out what to do and ask for help on what to do so we can move forward since that hypothetical situation did not happen.

Update: do y’all not read? I can’t get help with my insurance, I cannot get a rental. It’s easier said than done to just “fix” it. Obviously my friend is okay and has already recovered. I literally said my friend was released out the hospital the same day with no injuries. Obviously we’re still trying to fix the situation. I only asked for help. I feel like you’re not understanding the real difficulties I’m facing here. Calling me a drama queen when I’m trying to navigate a challenging situation without support doesn’t help me figure out a solution. I’m looking for understanding and maybe some constructive advice, not to be dismissed as overreacting. You’re making it sound so simple, when it’s not. It sounds like your response is dismissive and lacks understanding of my situation. You’re minimizing what I’m going through and comparing it to your own experience, which isn’t fair since everyone’s circumstances are different. Congratulations on resolving your situation, but mine is different and more complex. It’s not about being dramatic—it’s about handling a real problem with limited options.