My son is about to be 2 years old and the thought of throwing a party stresses me out. Let alone parties can add up. My husband and I rather use that money to celebrate another way. So we bought a day trip to Disneyland for his birthday, our son enjoys that place and the rides, then go out to eat. Reason why I feel terrible is because I’m not up to date with most mothers, throwing a big theme party and have entertainment for kids and adults. Honestly I can’t stand my family, my son is the only kid at this time. My husband’s side there some kids but SIL will be busy doing sports for her kids the weekend of and there is another baby cousin our son gets along with… well their parents aren’t getting along with my FIL. At first we were gonna do a small birthday at my in laws and have my parents there but my mother is very weird around my in laws (political differences and overall jealousy). So we said ok let my parents come to Disneyland and we will go to in laws for BBQ over the weekend. Then my BIL said something that made me feel bad (he always says stupid things because he loves drama and has no life, 40 y/o and still lives at home). Hes talking about how his friends are throwing a party for their kid and I should care to throw one and invite everyone. My husband and I use to be friends with these people but not anymore due to drama. My husband told BIL off. But still it makes me feel terrible. Am I still an awful mother for not throwing a party?

TO HANNAH: thank you so much for your kind words, I needed to hear this and it feels great to learn I’m not alone 🥺🙏🏽♥️

TO LESLIE: my mom threw his first party and he didn’t care for it too much, it was like he wanted to be left alone to eat cake. I see other toddler birthdays and they’re always crying and restless. And someone is always judging. You made good points, thank you so much for your response 🙏🏽🩷

TO JANE: honestly yes I know it’s silly but I would say I got triggered since someone else is insinuating that I don’t care about my kid’s fun and not as great of a mother like their friend. I don’t take comparisons very well, my cousins and I were compared and then now my parenting is, it sucks :/ Thank you for your input! 🙏🏽❣️

TO A: trust and believe me I feel even silly for posting this but I think I needed to let it out and hear others input. Awww I really do hope you take that time and go! I think California side is better for adults though 😂and you’re right, as along as the kid has fun with their people, it don’t matter. BIL’s friend is like that she likes to go all out and post on social media like they got this special life 🥴 thank you very much for your words 🫶🏽♥️

TO GIGI: thank you for your input and again it’s nice to know I’m not alone. I didn’t think of that way that it’s a good thing that we’re able to provide some sort of fun for our son. Thank you again 🙏🏽♥️