Nitpicking or “expressing”

Jasmine

Going to try and make this short. So I’ve been talking to this dude for over a year now. And me and my mom were having a conversation about him/guys/dating etc…. and she told me I nitpick or that i always have something to say about everything. I told her that I don’t feel like I’m nitpicking but if someone says something or does something that bothers you or offend you, shouldn’t you speak up on it? She told me not to read too much into everything . And maybe sometimes I do. But in my last experience not speaking up and not addressing certain things lead me to resent my last partner. Those same things I looked over and didn’t address eventually drove me crazy and turned bigger! On top of other stuff he did…

Idk from you ladies perspective, when how should you address things? I’m seriously trying to learn. I like the guy I’m talking to and he likes me but I’m not sure about being in a relationship now because I feel like I’m not ready. And I don’t wanna drive someone away but I also don’t want to not address things.

What do you guys think of this? How do yll deal In ylls relationship?