I am, like most women, externally stimulated and can only have an orgasm if my clitoris is being stimulated. I have told my husband this many times and have a specific toy that can get me to orgasm pretty quickly. My husband still seems to be uncomfortable with using toys and thinks it’s because he’s not satisfying me. I’ve tried explaining to him that it’s not his fault, it’s just how my body works. He was okay for a while, he would bring out the toy and use it on me. Fast forward, I got pregnant and every time we had sex, we never used it. If I mentioned the toy, he would seem down about it so I just stopped mentioning it. I am now 11 weeks pp and we still don’t use it. Don’t get me wrong, sex feels good, I just can’t get there from internal penetration only. I just don’t know how I’m supposed to keep having these conversations. I am feeling like he wants to satisfy his needs and not mine (I know that’s not his intentions). I’m just frustrated. It’s especially hard now because we have a baby and I feel like if I mention it, it’s going to be a “we have to be quick because of the baby”. Help me!