I've posted this in a few groups because I wasn't entirely sure which was the best fit. Apologies for that!

So, my boyfriend and I (26M & 31F) just moved in together a week ago at the time of this post. We have held off having sex because of my history of sex and intimacy trauma and haven't had sex in a little over a decade but have wanted to start trying. Thing is, we're both on the bigger side and he has about average size equipment. He's pretty easy to get hard but so far we've struggled to do anything. Doggy and missionary make it hard to get lined up properly because of our size since he's 6'2" and I'm only 5'6". He usually gets in but it tends to hurt and he slides out easily. 😅 We tried to do anal last night because I'm just not mentally ready for oral (I have some hangups about it that makes it feel degrading) but anal hurt a bit too much and so did missionary when we tried. He's getting so discouraged that he's even having a hard time cumming while masturbating. We want to eventually have kids but so far all our attempts have left both of us frustrated and discouraged. At this point, I'm worried I'll never have a sex life nor be able to have kids. 😅🥺

Has anybody else experienced anything like this?